Are you a people pleaser?
I think I am, most of the time, striving to please until I am finally, really, truly
not. (That would be the moment when my inner toddler throws her tantrum that sounds something like "you can't maaaaaa-aaake me.")
Do you want to make the people you love comfortable and the people you know happy and to be perfectly honest, do you want to make the people
you've never met like you? And then is there a line that can be crossed when you realize it's all impossible, anyway, and so goodnessgraciousme what to do?
It's okay if it's only me.
Just wondering.
When I am my most vulnerable I am also my most teachable, so there's the silver lining.
Whether or not folks like me, whether or not I can please all the people
any of the time, I am learning to like myself a little better when I find myself worthy of consideration in the equation of happiness.
We could be talking about what to make for dinner or where to live or how to invest your time/money/knowledge: to be pleasing is not nearly as important as to be after the right priorities. Saying "yes" to every request will lead me to certain failure on multiple fronts. It's harder at the beginning but ever so much easier as you go.
I have been saying my "yeses" at home to: gardening, pony pursuits, school and dance schedules, meeting our neighbors. I have been answering "no" to joining new (church, non-profit, writing critique) groups, and "no" to writing for new (but worthy!) causes.
I'm pretty pleased with myself.
What do you say "no" to? Or do you?
